Hello Vines:
This post will be a bit different from the previous ones.
Normally, I would write an encouraging post and give pointers on how to do and
what not to do. But today’s post is about me. So, tolerate me for a few minutes
as I pour out one of my biggest frustrations. Sad thing is, the finger is being
pointed at me. And it is not because I do not know what to do, I do. It is
rather “how” to go about it. So here
it is. By the way, after reading this, please feel free to leave a comment or
advise.
For so many years, I have been excited and more than eager
to help others reach their fullest potential. I have been the cheerleader, the
straight-talking friend, the dependable sister, the trusted buddy and so on. I
have done so willingly because I find delight in doing so. I just do not know
how to stand by and watch someone , when I can be of help. Especially when I know
exactly how and can help.
I have been the promoter to so many businesses that would
have never seen the light of day, if I were not there to encourage the owners;
tears have been turned to laughter as I have been there knowing precisely what
to say to help them forget about their stress, even just for a moment. I am
that one friend that will support you through your vision just to make sure you
succeed. I know so because I have received so many gratitude, cards, calls and
much more, expressing their appreciations.
Now, is there anything wrong with that? Absolutely not. It
is actually fulfilling. However, as supportive as I am or can be toward someone
else’s project or business, I struggle to see mine come to fruition. There have
been so many times that I sit back and shake my head thinking, “Why can’t I
proceed with this …...?”, “What is holding me back?” I mean sure, I over
analyze everything like there is no tomorrow. For goodness sake, I did Business
Analytics in college, that’s how much I like to analyze things. I will play
every scenario you can think of to see what other outcomes there could be. GOD
forbit I see a flaw or a “what if”, then that’s it. I will put that project
down until I can find a solution to that one tiny “what if”.
The thing is, this is extremely frustrating. If someone else
was going through this, I know just what I would do. I would know how to get
that person on their feet and running till their project or business sees the
light and breathe the air it deserves. So why can’t I do this for me? I mean, I
have not only become a Consultant for others, but the “go to” for them as well.
I have read books, done researches and even downloaded apps
to help me but to no avail. Is my passion and strength just that? Consultant?
As I said earlier, I am not complaining about being there for others. In fact,
I love it. I just need to figure out how I can make passion into a means of
income.
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